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Ask Me Anything with C E Long. Author of A Thin Line Between Love and Lust, a bold new polyamorous romance novel that pushes the limits of sex, love, and family.

C.E. Long
Dec 2, 2017

C E Long took the chance of writing a romance that speaks from his experience.  Not many are daring enough to tell a story so outside the box.  His writing reflects his own life, as well as many others who participate in relationships that aren't so common.  He's active in the poly community and enjoys gathering the experiences of many on their road to find the love that's right for them. 

Amazon Book Link: http://getbook.at/loveandlust

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Email: SexLoveandIceCream@gmail.com

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Are there any negative feedbacks on your work?

Dec 8, 10:54PM EST0

When you promote this, do you also disclose the risks involved?

Dec 3, 6:47PM EST1

From an earlier question: " I believe we are far too fickle for me to take responsibility in trying to influence someone I do not know into believing in something that I may not even be right about.  I have no desire to sway someone’s opinion, or even to make them have one at all.  I’m simply telling a story in a voice not often heard, one of people finding love in an uncommon way. "

So to your question:  What is "this"? What am I "promoting"?  If you read through all the responses to previous questions, you'll notice a common theme... Find what's right for YOU?  So do I disclose the risks involved in finding what's right for you?  I don't know, what risks are involved in that?

Dec 3, 8:17PM EST0

Are the sexual relations more satisfying when we have lesser constraints on a relationship?

Dec 3, 4:35AM EST1

My immediate answer would be “of course!”  But I think I need to break this question down to be more specific.

First, for me to say what is more satisfying for all people would be an error.  I cannot answer for "we."  I can only answer for me, as you can only answer for you.

Second, what are "lesser constraints"?  Are you asking if all sex becomes better if you're able to have it with more people?  Based on the topic you could mean it that way.  Or, are you asking, does all sex become better if you're able to be yourself, be uninhibited, have “lesser constraints”?  Do you see how the answer becomes so much more obvious with the difference?  We all know what we are like when we are less inhibited, when we feel like we don’t have to hide all those dirty little thoughts we don’t normally say out loud, when we feel comfortable enough to explore our kinks and release that part we normally keep hidden.  What happens when you are in a relationship where you feel more comfortable doing that, when you’re not worried about being judged?  Do you have better sex?  There’s your answer.  When you're able to share yourself without judgment, having “lesser constraints,” then yes, you're more likely to have "more satisfying" sex.  But having sex with more people doesn’t guarantee you “more satisfying” sex if you just have a bunch of relationships where you’re still hiding. 

But that takes me to the third clarification I need.  What does "more satisfying" mean.  Do you mean encouraging a deeper connection with your sex partner?  Or do you mean having sex that is more exciting and fun?  Sometimes sex is used to satisfy a physical urge, sometimes it’s used to fill a need for a deep emotional connection.  Do you see how my answer might change depending on which you mean?  Having sex with more people doesn’t guarantee you more fun and exciting sex (though there’s a strong chance it might), just like having sex with one person doesn’t guarantee you more emotionally connecting sex.  It depends on the people you’re having sex with right?  And more importantly, it depends on you, how you feel about sex, how open you are to exploring your wants and getting your needs met.  Having the ability to seek out multiple partners only guarantees you one thing, the freedom to explore and FIND "more satisfying" sex in a supportive and understanding environment, but it doesn’t guarantee you’ll find it.  How satisfying your sex life is has far more to do with you than who you are dating.  When you’ve done the work to be you, be uninhibited, have “lesser constraints” no matter who you are with, then you’ll have more satisfying sex, both emotionally and physically.

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Dec 3, 9:41AM EST0

Have you started writing your second book?

Dec 2, 8:52PM EST1

Yes, I have a couple other projects I've started.  But honestly, I decided to focus more on publishing other writers over writing more myself.  I have a few books some friends want me to publish.  I have plans on pursuing good stories I find and getting those out.  So working on the publishing craft has been a bigger goal of mine than writing another book.

Dec 2, 9:17PM EST0

Is this yet your first book?

Dec 2, 6:02PM EST1

Yes, this is my first published novel.

Dec 2, 6:23PM EST0

What satisfaction can we get from a polyamorous romance?

Dec 2, 3:52PM EST1

"We" denotes that everyone will get the same thing.  What satisfaction do I get?  What satisfaction do you get?  Those may be totally different answers that depend on you and I.  The satisfaction you can get is finding out what makes YOU satisfied, not me, not other men or women, not society, not your mother or father, not your girlfriend or wife, but YOU.

Dec 2, 6:23PM EST0

Has everyone who maintained this kind of relationship, eventually found the love of their life?

Dec 2, 2:43PM EST1

Everyone?... No.  But has "everyone" who maintained any kind of relationship eventually found the "love of their life"?  The type of relationship you pursue has far less to do with finding love then where you are within yourself.  If you don't love yourself first, you won't be happy no matter what you pursue.  The work starts within.  Wait... here... let Whitney tell you The Greatest Love of ALL

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Dec 2, 6:19PM EST0

Are there such issues as jealousy, distrust, and dishonesty?

Dec 1, 9:27PM EST1

Of course!  But don't those exist in all relationships?  The goal, no matter what type of relationship you're in, is to confront and deal with those issues as they arise.  Polyamorous people deal with those issues in their relationships just as much as anyone.  I think the only difference may be that it's already established that these issues will arise, so you're more likely to confront and deal with them as they come.  Instead of hiding and masking them under the guise of fitting into a box for your partner.

Dec 1, 9:45PM EST0

What can you get out of practicing this kind of relationship?

Dec 1, 12:50PM EST1

Aiya! That’s a huge question.  Where to begin?  My first thought is to start listing a bunch of things.  But I immediately have a second thought... the answer is nothing or everything.  It’s all up to you.  You’ll get no more or no less than you’ll get from any other relationship.  It all depends on the work you’re putting into it.  You put in nothing, you'll get nothing.  You put in everything, and you'll get everything.  But all of this is from you, for you.  It has nothing to do with those you are involved with.

Whether you’re in a relationship with one, two, or twenty people, you’re going to run into the same issues.  The only thing that matters is how YOU choose to face them.  Are you the type to run from conflict, constantly trying to find something easy and laid out for you?  Or are you the type to face things head on?  Do you challenge yourself and your feelings?  Do you question your own thoughts and perceptions?  Do you try to be empathetic and put yourself in the shoes of others?  Do you try to feel what they feel, even if it means having to look past your own feelings?  All these things are not special to “this kind of relationship,” it’s what you experience in ANY relationship.  But only if you’re strong enough to challenge yourself.

I will say this one thing though.  Being polyamorous does come with a lot of stigmas.  You’re immediately confronted with the issue of jealousy, so honesty and communication become your best friend.  You learn to practice it in ways you never imagined you would.  But like I said, this is something we should learn in ANY relationship, but I think when engaging in more common relationships we take certain things for granted.  Being honest and open is frowned upon about certain things.  How can you tell your partner about that one guy at work you think is hot?  How he’s always flirting with you and sometimes you imagine things with him you know you shouldn’t.  You don’t.  So what do you do?  You hide.  You pretend.  You create an image of yourself that is not 100% true.  You aren’t being transparent.  You can't be yourself.

So what can you gain?  The ability to be you.  But you can gain that in ANY relationship when you’re aware that is your goal.  I just think it’s harder when you’re stuck trying to maintain a role you know you’re supposed to play.  All those things your mother and father told you that you should be.  What TV and movies defined for you.  Whenever you to break molds that were premade for you, whether in the relationships you engage in, your choice in appearance, the things you say or do, you move one step closer to defining yourself for yourself.  Polyamory is just one way of many for doing that.

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Dec 1, 2:20PM EST0

Is it true to say that many families break up due to lack of or insufficient love and sex?

Dec 1, 11:42AM EST1

That sounds like a compound question with many landmines.  Do you mind if I separate it?  Is it true to say that many families break up due to lack of or insufficient love and sex?  Families don't break up because of lack of sex, relationships do, because everyone in a family isn't having sex.  So are you asking about families or relationships?  Do many relationships break up due to lack of love and sex.  Of course! 

But it seems you easily combined the two (love AND sex), as if they are interchangeable, so that's where the landmine comes in.  I'm afraid that by saying yes I am saying "many relationships break up due to lack of sex."  That would not be an "of course."  Lack of sex is usually a symptom, not a cause.

I don't think sex is the glue that holds long-lasting relationships and marriages together.  It's great, and it helps to strengthen that intimate bond you have with your partner, but it's not the sex, it's the intimate bond that is the glue.

Have you ever heard a comedian say something similar to this: "When you're married, kiss all that hot sex goodbye"?  They then go about talking about how boring their sex lives are now that they're married... but none of them would trade it for being single.  Why do they say this?  Because people in long-lasting relationships are aware that sex is not what holds their relationship together.  It's only a small part, and that part gets even smaller over time.  A woman can get any man with the temptation of sex, but she KEEPS him with love.

At the start it may be a big deal, especially for men, but at some point we move past the allure (I've often found sex transfers in importance from man to woman the longer you're together).  The relationship becomes about so many more things that sex takes a back seat.  Sex becomes the breadsticks of your meal at Olive Garden.  I love those breadsticks!  But that's not why I'm there.  I'm there for the meal!

Most people aren't picking and choosing the restaurant they want to eat at based on how good the breadsticks are (the restaurant is your life partner).  They choose based on how good the meal is.  If you want to leave the restaurant, it's usually not because the breadsticks were bad.  It's because the meal was bad.  The meal is the love... the support, understanding, caring, dependability and all other things your partner offers.  When a restaurant serves GREAT food, most of us can forgive some bad (or "lack of") breadsticks LOL.  If it comes down to it, that can always be worked on.

But when you're "lacking" breadsticks, there’s usually a reason behind it that you should get to the bottom of.  You may not have asked for them, the restaurant may have bad customer service, or they simply don't serve breadsticks.  But most people, if the food is REALLY GOOD, will still go to that restaurant for the meal.  And “they always forget to give me my breadsticks, I have to ask for them” just becomes a quirk that adds to the character of the restaurant in their 5-star review on Yelp.  You feel my drift?  When the love is good, you’ll compromise in many other ways, and sex and love aren’t the same.

Also, “lack of” infers that sex is about quantity over quality.  Georgy my friend... if you had a choice between a woman who did something once a month that shattered your whole world and redefined your fantasies or someone who laid down for you every night and let you "put it in” which would you choose?

Forgive all the comedy and food references... I think I'm hungry... and wanna watch a comedy.

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Dec 1, 12:30PM EST0

I don't truly understand what is polyamorous romance. Can you explain to me who is yet to read your book?

Dec 1, 8:29AM EST1

Forgive me for starting with a literal definition.  Polyamory (poly = many, much, or more and amory = love) is the practice or desire for multiple relationships at the same time with the knowledge and consent of all people involved.  So this romance is based on that concept.  It's a romance like any other.  One where you want to end with a smile on your face and have hope that love exists in the world for everyone.  It's just told with a relationship that isn't common in your average love story... a polyamorous one.

(Often, the definition includes "romantic relationships" but I omit that of my own choice as I feel all the relationships don't have to be "romantic."  I know plenty who have partners that many of us would not consider "romantically involved." )

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Dec 1, 11:07AM EST0

How can you distinguish if it's love or just lust?

Dec 1, 3:55AM EST1

Lust comes and goes, like hunger.  You eat, you get full, and you don't want to eat anymore... until the next time you are hungry.  Love is insatiable.  You are never full.  It never goes away.  It is not a temporary feeling that comes and goes.  When the smoke clears, when all the fantasy involved in getting to know someone goes away, when all the excitement dissipates, how do you feel?  When your man starts farting in front of you, when you catch a view of your girl's panties that had something in them you didn't want to see, how do you feel?  Do you want to run?  That's lust.  Do you take a deep whiff of that fart and consider helping your man change his diet?  Do you pick up those panties and hide them for her so she doesn't feel the embarrassment of knowing what you saw?  That's love.  Lust is a fantasy, it only remains as long as the fantasy remains.  Love is real, it survives beyond the fantasy.

For me personally, it's a feeling I have.  I described it in the book in Track 3 - Interlude.  It involves telling a pretty long story that I do not want to tell here.  But that Chapter is all real events and feelings that happened, almost exactly as they are written.  The only changes being that my mother and sister didn't actually die.  Everything else, including how Prince conveys his feelings toward Dominique (her real name was Jaime) is real.  There you'll find another answer.  It's when nothing else matters.  When all other things pale in comparison to what you have now.  When, as Prince puts it, "When I was with her, no matter what we were doing, I felt the rest of the world passing me by... while feeling like I wasn’t missing a single thing." 

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Dec 1, 10:28AM EST0

Since you are also a practicing poly, does it make you opinionated about this kind of relationship?

Nov 30, 5:13PM EST1

Of course it does.  But I'm opinionated about everything.  Aren't we all?  But what do you really mean? Whether I think everyone should believe as I believe and do what I do?  No.  Everyone has to find their own way.  And I believe people should be allowed to do so.  And I try to encourage you and anyone else to not let society define your happiness.  Because societies change with the time.  What's right today, might not be right tomorrow.. and what's right here, may not be right there... so why hold yourself to these temporary ideas of "the right way" to do things?  Find YOUR right way.  That would be my opinion.

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Nov 30, 6:44PM EST0

Can a love last without any sexual desire?

Nov 26, 10:09PM EST1

What is "a love" to you?  I love many people I don't have sex with.  Different people serve different purposes in your life.  It's kind of what polyamory is all about.  I know this couple.  They are very involved in the poly community in my area.  They have been married for 15 years.  The wife refers to him as her "best friend."  They used to have sex early in their marriage.  She says it was always a struggle because he isn't a "sexual person" and she is.  She always felt like she was pestering him into fulfilling her needs and did not like that feeling (she's a bombshell by the way and isn't used to that sort of rejection).  They do not have sex anymore.  Yet they are still married.  She fulfills her sexual desires in other relationships, yet is still married to her "best friend and business partner."  Does that answer your question? 

I mean, you have to find what works for YOU.  All relationships don't have to fall into a box.  That's the problem.  We feel that one person has to be all things to us.  Every thought, dream, and hope we ever had, this one poor soul has to fulfill.  Think about it, we say things like "my mate has to be my best friend."  I'm not saying that's wrong but why?  Why can't you have a best friend to be your best friend?  Why burden this person who is only a human being with so many responsibilities you deemed their job to fill?  They have to be your best friend yet still be the suave mystery that gets many of us hot in the pants.  They have to be gentle and kind when you need it, and rough and dirty when you want it.  We require people to fill all these opposite roles and feel 100% justified in requiring it.

So back to the question... Can a love last without any sexual desire?  What is "a love"?  Do you mean a sexual relationship?  It’ll be hard to hold onto a lasting sexual relationship without sexual desire for the person.  Sounds dreadful.  But you said “a love.”  Do you love anyone in your life that you do not have sex with?  Your answer will be there.  Sex and love are definitely not synonymous and not everyone you meet is meant to fit every role in your life.  Love is a far bigger picture than who you are or aren’t having sex with. 

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Nov 27, 12:04AM EST0

When we talk about finding the love that's right for someone, should it always involve sexual relations?

Nov 26, 1:20PM EST1

Of course not.  But I bet you know that already.   I think that’s a problem most of us face throughout life.  We are told what we “should” do so much, that we become fogged from our own truth and end up needing someone else’s validation to affirm what we already know.  “Love is pain,” “Love is sacrifice,” we hear things like this over and over, in different shapes and forms, to the point that it becomes our reality.  You aren't Jesus.  Love doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your body against you own will.  Especially if the only purpose is because someone is horny.  To many, sexual compatibility is important, and they want to “test drive before buying the car.”  That’s THEIR truth, it doesn’t dictate yours.  Sex does not have to be involved at all... EVER... if that’s what you want. 

Now I’m not 100% sure of the context of your question, maybe you meant something far lighter than where I took it.  Maybe you just mean does sex have to be involved while dating.  The first answer surely answers that as well.  You should do what feels right for you.  It’s as simple as that.  If you want to have sex, do it, if you don’t, don’t.  Don’t do something at a time you don’t think is right because you feel like it’s what you “should” do.

At the same time, don’t hold back because you feel like it’s what you “should” do either.  The “shoulds” cut both ways.  We have thoughts like these:  “I should fuck them because if I don't they will leave.  I should give them what they want so they don’t go out and get it from someone else.”  Or:  “I should not fuck them because I don’t want to look like a hoe.  I should not be promiscuous or no one will take me seriously as a life partner.”  Both of those “shoulds” block us from finding our own truth.

Be free.  Be you.  And let your truth guide your actions.  When you let love flow, what comes naturally will come.  Anything else is just manipulation of yourself and the other person.  When you allow yourself to be you, and do the personal work that allows you to get rid of those “shoulds,” you’re far more likely to find your own truth and what makes YOU truly happy.

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Nov 26, 6:06PM EST0

Are you trying to orient your readers about this different kind of relationship?

Nov 25, 1:55PM EST1

What do you mean by orient?  That’s not a commonly used word for me to assume what you mean.  Are you talking about building a “preference” for that kind of relationship?  Or just simply make them “aware” of it?  Hold on, be right back... (*plays jeopardy music)... Okay, back.  Let’s go with this definition I found...

Orient: to find one’s position in relation to new and strange surroundings.

Sure, I’ll say I want to help do that.  But at the same time, I don’t.  I don’t think anything, especially our beliefs about certain things, are permanent.  What you feel about something today, you may feel totally different about tomorrow.  Most of our beliefs are simply a response to our environment and circumstances.  If our environment and circumstances change, the beliefs can easily change with them. 

That being said, I believe we are far too fickle for me to take responsibility in trying to influence someone I do not know into believing in something that I may not even be right about.  I have no desire to sway someone’s opinion, or even to make them have one at all.  I’m simply telling a story in a voice not often heard, one of people finding love in an uncommon way.  Those who have ears for it will hear it.  Those who have eyes for it will see it.  But I can’t hold myself responsible for giving people eyes and ears.  Does that make sense?

I wrote it with love in mind, but the reader can do with it as they wish.  I’ve seen some whose first instinct is to reject the idea totally.  That’s their prerogative.  And I’ve seen some who read with an open mind and heart.  That’s their prerogative too.  My favorites are those who respond with curiosity and questions, like these here in Ask Me Anything.  But either way you look at it, whether they reject or accept your ideas, the person allowed their thoughts to be spoken to and they listened.  That alone is a privilege to receive from anyone.

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Nov 25, 5:07PM EST0

What made you so involved in this type of relationship?

Nov 25, 10:59AM EST1

I’m an introvert.  I’m a dreamer.  And the weird part is my dreams are often birthed through some type of logic.  To me, everything about polyamory seemed so logical and beautiful.  I’m going to get a little deep here, into some pretty abstract and social concepts, so be warned.

When I was younger, I noticed a huge problem in the black community: Single parents, specifically mothers.  Yes, it is a problem, though many try to swear it’s not. I won’t get into specifics as to why it’s an issue. Anywho, it’s sad to imagine that any child you meet, the likelihood that they live in a home with their father is lower than the chance that they do.  How do we fix this?  Men who are willing to take on responsibilities that others do not seemed like a clear, logical solution.

Even as a child, I imagined not having children of my own.  Instead, I thought it'd be better to give a father to a child who would otherwise not have one.  Are there enough men willing to do this?  If there were, there wouldn’t be so many single mothers in the first place.  From there it became a thought that grew.  I imagined the increased resources that would come into the home with multiple adults in it.  I imagined it being able to change the poverty level.  I imagined communities based on this concept.  I imagined the men in our communities taking their responsibilities more seriously knowing that these women aren’t just designated to be single and waiting without them.  I imagined women building stronger bonds with each other, bringing back African ideals of villages raising children.  I imagined people who would otherwise live their lives at a disadvantage, having every advantage.  I imagined the comfort and stability that larger family structures could provide to a community that seems to be losing family values at an alarming rate.  The thoughts go on and on.  A Thin Line Between Love and Lust is only a small titillating taste of ideas I have that are far grander.

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Nov 25, 12:18PM EST0

What about the children that may be born out of this kind of relationship?

Nov 25, 9:51AM EST1

This is a very good question and is usually brought up in almost every poly discussion group I go to.  Do you mind if I start by telling a story?

One day I was out with my step-daughter at Target.  I asked her to pick out a movie for us to watch for movie night.  She did and we went to pay.  The cashier was very sweet and nice... and pretty.  Suddenly my step-daughter asked, “Hey, do you want to come over and watch a movie with us?”  The cashier replied, “I don’t know if that’d be okay with your daddy?”  She turned to me and asked, “Is it okay if she comes over and watches the movie with us?”  I said, “If it’s okay with your mother.”  I noticed the cashier's eyebrow raise a little, but she ended up giving me her number anyway.  I talked to who was then my fiancé, we got a laugh out of the story about my little wingman picking up girls for me at Target, and eventually, we did all end up watching that movie together.  Of course, the story has far more fun and interesting details than that so forgive me for shortening it in order to explain how this relates to your question.

You see, when children are born they are taught right and wrong by their environment and the society they are brought up in.  Polyamory is not anything new, it’s been around forever.  In many societies, it is normal and common, though not so much in ours.  And despite what we like to believe, we do not have sovereignty over right and wrong.  Children brought up in poly families aren’t taught that polyamory is wrong so my question becomes “What do you mean 'What about the children?'” 

From my experience, all children care about is “How much love can I get?”  More adults = more love.  And they love it. Also, polyamorous people are REALLY big on communication.  “Communication, communication, communication” is a poly mantra.  Poly relationships take a lot of openness, understanding, and WORK.  Lots and lots of work.  Personal work, interpersonal work, work on how to be understanding of yourself and express your own feelings, work on understanding others and allowing them to express their feelings. Imagine how a child benefits from experiencing this in their home.

I’ve noticed children of polyamorous families be able to communicate their thoughts and feelings more confidently than most because this is what they see every day.  There are older children who attend our poly discussion groups and they often have the most insightful and grounded input.  So what about the children?  Children benefit.  Maybe once they are around teenage years and start feeling the pull of “fitting in” there may be issues for some (I’ve yet to see it), but outside of that, all they see is: more adults=more love, more attention, and MORE STUFF lol

Also, if you want to hear THE REAL EXPERT answer your question, look up Dr. Elisabeth Sheff.  She’s the author of “The Polyamorists Next Door” and many other books.  She’s also considered the foremost academic expert on children in polyamorous families.  She did a study earlier this year that you may find more informed than my personalized opinion.  Children In Polyamorous Families Part 1

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Nov 25, 12:15PM EST0

Since when did you decide to be in a polyamorous relationship?

Nov 25, 8:00AM EST1

It’s weird, as a man I feel it’s not really up to us to “decide” to be in a polyamorous relationship.  I feel like all power lies within women.  I can only do what the women I'm with approve of, just like Prince.  When I first wrote this book, I had no idea what polyamory even was.  All I was doing was compiling stories and creating a fantasy by tying them all together into this dream relationship I imagined.  What ended up happening is my fiancé read it and told me, “hey... do you know what this is?  It’s polyamory.”  I was like “poly-what?”  I then started researching it, we both did, her before me actually, and the rest writes itself.  So I guess the answer to the question would be two-part.  1) When I found out what polyamorous even was and 2) When my girl let me.  LOL Disclaimer: This is not all polyamorists' point of view.  I've met some men who will establish they are poly beforehand and will not pursue a relationship unless that is understood and accepted. 

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Nov 25, 12:10PM EST0

From those that you documented in the book, how long have they been participating in this uncommon relationship?

Nov 25, 6:48AM EST1

I’m sorry this probably isn’t going to be the answer you were looking for, but there's no way for me to say.  No one person is “documented” in this book.  It’s a work of fiction, all characters are fictitious, it's just compiled from real people and events.  Yes, there are a couple characters more strongly based on only one person, but their names aren’t used in the book.  The other characters are actually a combination of people and the events a combination of events.  Someone may read it and say “Oh, I remember doing that with someone,” then take a look at the author, and say “OH MY GOD!  I KNOW THAT GUY!  HE’S TALKING ABOUT ME!”  (I’ve heard from a past flame or two who called to ask if that one part in the book was us... "yes, yes it was") but they’ll only recognize themselves in a scene or two and nothing else about the character will reflect them.  So I can't really give you a solid answer because no one character is solely based on one person.

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Nov 25, 12:09PM EST0
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